What’s Wrong With Waiting
If you’ve been exploring the Human Design System and you have been told you are a Generator, you will also have learnt that your ‘Strategy’ is to wait.
A lot of people feel a huge sense of relief when they hear this. No more rushing around trying to make things happen. It’s okay to relax, sit back and allow life to come to us. Depending on your design, you may have figured it out a long time ago and really have appreciated the confirmation. Or perhaps you have been struggling and striving with nothing ever quite coming together for you and the idea of waiting suddenly made so much sense!
When I got my first Human Design chart back in 2003 I couldn’t even make sense of the idea of waiting, but I stuck with it, and gradually the benefits have flowed through into my life. I no longer rush around like a mad hornet on speed until I drop from exhaustion.
Over the years I’ve explained ‘the Generator Strategy’ to thousands of people. And over the years I’ve become more and more uncomfortable with the notion of Waiting To Respond. Here’s why.
What Are You Waiting For?
What does waiting actually mean? According to the Merriam-Webster online dictionary it means to stay stationery in a place of expectation. Does that sound like a good life strategy to you? My problems with it are twofold.
Firstly, we are in a suspended animation, forever doomed to wait for … who knows what?
And secondly, it keeps us in our ego self, in the idea that there is something out there, something worth putting our life on hold for.
Trying to live from a strategy of ‘waiting’ takes us out of the moment and puts us into a place of constant expectation, where our only hope is for the future to bring what we are waiting for. It’s a bit like the Christian idea of heaven. If we’re good now, we’ll get our heavenly reward later.
Strategy As Confusion
Here’s another thing I experienced over the years as I lived my ‘Generator Strategy’ of waiting to respond. It felt really, really good to slow down. It felt wonderful to know that I didn’t need to force anything. But at the same time, I found myself continually going into my mind and asking ‘is this what I’ve been waiting for?’.
When our strategy takes us out of the moment, it puts us straight back into the place we have been trying to climb out of – the ego/mental realm. Only this time we have a slightly different version of the story to keep our minds busy.
Human Design And The Experience of Authentic Self
Regardless of our type, our authority or what centres appear to be activated in our designs, we all seek to live fully in each moment of our lives. If you have an defined Spleen Centre, you have a design to live fully in each moment of your life. If you have a undefined Spleen Centre you still have a design to live fully in each moment of your life. We all feel emotions, and we all have to wait until the time is right for something new to birth.
If you have a defined Sacral Centre and you have been practising waiting, ask yourself these questions.
- What are you waiting for?
- And, in your experience of waiting, what might you be missing in this moment?
I no longer teach the waiting strategy. Now I talk to people about their moment by moment sacral response. What is your Sacral Centre saying YES to right in this moment? It might be sleep, food, sex, running a marathon, sitting in front of the tv. The more we experiment with resting into this place of natural response, the less frustration we experience and the more irrelevant the idea of waiting becomes.
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